If you are a regular reader of this blog probably already know its meaning: a way to communicate in which you defend your rights, you express your opinions and suggestions perform honestly and not aggressive.
Assertiveness is nothing but respects you respect for others. Say what you really think controlling the message you want to convey to not be too aggressive or brittle.
And although it seems simple in theory, in practice it is not so.
Yes, you can learn to be more assertive
Fortunately, Assertiveness is a behavior that can be learned and improved. It is a conscious way to communicate your feelings without getting caught up in the emotions and is based on the confidence in yourself. And remember that confidence can only be developed through personal experiences, never reading books or blogs at home.
I hope to be assertive not believe will solve all your problems in life, because it will not. Nor will it be appropriate in all situations because each context is different. However, I can assure you that you will feel more confident and will convey it more effectively when needed.
Express your true feelings and defend your rights can be wonderfully rewarding. When you say what you want, whether you get it or not, you get to live more authentic and happy way.
You feel free…
What will serve to be assertive?
Being assertive serves to expose to others what your true desires and needs are, and to show dignity, confidence and respect for yourself.
The most interesting is that requests you to do the assertive communication will be much more likely to succeed because they’re legitimately asking your opinion is respected. Usually, it will be useful for:
- Give your opinion, make a request or ask someone naturally and not as a favor if you’re asking you to spare his life.
Express your negative emotions (complaints, criticism, disagreement, etc) and reject requests without others hurt or angry you feel.
- Show positive emotions (joy, pride, pleasure, attraction) and give compliments without seeming too emotionally volatile.
- Ask why and feel entitled to question authority or traditions.
- Start, continue, change, and end conversations comfortably without the feeling of being unmeaning or disrespecting anyone.
- Share your feelings, emotions and experiences with others and encourage them to share theirs with you.
Solve everyday problems before they arise negative emotions like anger and anger and the situation gets out of control.
- However, being assertive not achieve that people want you, you never get angry with you and grant you everything you want. However much you use assertiveness will always be people who will continue giving no for an answer if you ask something that goes against their interests or values.